It is not rare to see the fashion girls in Facebook or Renren social networking website publishing their newest luxury bags or shoes on internet. And what would you like to comment below their pictures?
According to Social Psychology, social comparison in nature is not what we can prevent or suppress.It is a basic social ability which can keep us a seat in the society,although some upward comparison may hurt our self-esteem. For instance, I like to complain about the ranking statistics published by affair offices of the school after getting a terrible scores in an exam.In fact,I know I have screwed up this test, and I have right not to check the ranking. However, why do I still hang onto the ranking result? Frankly,I complained about the ranking system not due to the ranking system itself but to that it may hurt my self-esteem for losing to lots of people in comparison. And you may say, you are so competitive which makes you so tired.To be frank, you have never cared about any ranking? You have never compared yourself with someone behind their backs? Let's confess the comparison in nature.However,comparison is not a negative word for it can always remind you of improving.
Then get back to the question: what would you like to comment on the beauties' beautiful picture? Let me give you some advises:
A: no comments
B: eulogize
C: tell her that you do not like their pictures.
I guess,after comparing to this lucky and happy beauty's life, some girls who are in a dilemma may want to choose C because of jealousy.However,I believe most of you will not choose answer C.Because you know C is not the expectant comments, and you prefer to maintain your kind and humane public impression.
I guess,after comparing to this lucky and happy beauty's life, some girls who are in a dilemma may want to choose C because of jealousy.However,I believe most of you will not choose answer C.Because you know C is not the expectant comments, and you prefer to maintain your kind and humane public impression.
How do you know C is not the expectant answer?
We live in the historical society,and we have interactions with others everyday. We are directly or indirectly interfered by the whole environment. We need to constrain ourselves follow the rules of the environment for survive.These rules and principles is built in our mind by ourselves based on Social Cognitive Theory.People can learn not only by first handed trial and error but instead by observing the behaviors of others,as well as by observing the outcomgs of those behaviors.
In the above, I mentioned that we have little ability stop comparing in mind, however,according to Social Cognitive Theory,people can have considerable control over their actions and environment.This well explains why most people choose the answer AB and How do people know C is not the expectant answer of the "show off" girl.Processing of prohibiting choosing answer C is called Self-Regulation in a Social Network.
In some sense, the Facebook or Renren you can not exactly represent who you really are,especially under real-name registration.
I feel it sounds ironic.One of your friends on the Renren website published a statement which irritated you, and you could not against her or him only due to the impression of you for others? To me, it sounds unsound at all. I want to express the against feelings and at the same time I need to hear something different. I mentioned the brainstorm in my last blog. How can sparks come out without conflicts?
Therefore a new function of reply comes to my mind.The website should allow us to reply to our friends anonymously even if we are real-name registered.
I feel it sounds ironic.One of your friends on the Renren website published a statement which irritated you, and you could not against her or him only due to the impression of you for others? To me, it sounds unsound at all. I want to express the against feelings and at the same time I need to hear something different. I mentioned the brainstorm in my last blog. How can sparks come out without conflicts?
Therefore a new function of reply comes to my mind.The website should allow us to reply to our friends anonymously even if we are real-name registered.
A button of "reply anonymously" could be add there in the picture above.It strikes me that this change can make our minds and feeling expressed and received roundly,and protected simultaneously.However,there are several problems in this kind of changed process.
(1)It may not beneficial for social relationship maintaining.
e.g. some paranoid people may suspect any person around him.
(2)It provides tempestuous people with platform to abuse and bully.
And there must be many other hidden disadvantages in this process. The question that adding an anonymous button or not needs much more research statistics covering social psychology,research and develop cost and so on to decide.
Hey,your blog is really cool!After reading I got to think that at renren people may not represent their real selves.So your thinking and suggestions are so constructive.
回复删除Thanks for your reply.
删除"reply anonymously" is really good idea. In some extend, it could encourage people discussing sensitive topics without concerns. However, it may brings more problems. As a platform based on real name and identity, this function seems be contradict to the original design. Plus, verbal violence is already serious in current platform, i'm afraid that irresponsible words will be heavily increased.
回复删除Perhaps it is one of the major reasons why the Internet getting so popular,you can act as someone different from the character you act in your real-life.
回复删除The idea of anonymously reply button is quite interesting. This phenomenon has already existed in some BBS, forums or something like tieba.baidu.com. In order to keep a virtuous image, people tend to post sharp comments by their newly created accounts or guest accounts which have no relationship with their true identity. Sometimes these comments can be really aggressive for no responsibility is charged. Although these comments looks annoying, sometimes they truly comes from one's heart.
回复删除"reply anonymously"sounds a good idea.It may encourage people to express themselves more frankly. But as you said, it may also bring in aggressive or irresponsible comments. In fact, if we really regard one person as a good friend, we would like to make comments frankly, even some criticism. I think they also can understand. Sometimes, it is too many consideration that makes us bound hands and feet.
回复删除I agree with you. Your "reply anonymously" button is quite out of imagination and amazing. I think it would be much more interesting if I could reply for my friends with anonymity because I would give some funny comments then let my friends guess who I am.
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